Fifty shades of what?
John 15:12 (ESV) “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.
In case you have been living under a rock and are unaware of a “certain film” debuting this weekend (Valentines weekend) called “Fifty shades of Grey” about the best selling book series which follows the BDSM lifestyle of a certain Christian Grey.
For those of you who do not have a Christian conviction or those who do not live a Christian life will probably see nothing wrong with the movie that talks about the degradation of another human for the purposes of sexual gratification.
What is love?
The verse above talks of the purest type of love, everyone who reads this will be confronted with this sentence, the man who said these words died for your sins. His name was Jesus Christ and he died for the sins of the world knowing that some would reject him. He even knows if you accept of reject him and he also knows what decision you will make after reading this article.
The Bible talks of three types of love, two of which we will cover in this article. The loves we will cover are the love of “eros” where we get our modern day erotic word from, and “agape” which is a self sacrificing serving love and this is what Jesus is talking about here.
The rest of the article will focus on “eros”.
Lust not love
Here is where I differ from many Christians who feel compelled or feel led by the LORD to write about this topic. I am not going to do a “Father Ted” type protest that involves standing at the cinemas waving placards with such slogans as “down with this sort of thing”. (The British and Irish readers will get the reference to the popular TV show in the 90s called Father Ted).
What I am going to do is attempt to “in love” explain the difficulties that I have with this premise of a film. You see, as I type this I am looking at my five year old little girl playing in my living room and as a father it makes me realize that those women are someone’s daughters.
I have read a few commentaries and many are off base, declaring this as “an alternative love” and a “liberation of the boundaries in the bedroom” I find this hard as I love my wife and I would state that we are pretty liberated. I love her for who she is and our attraction is not just based on how we feel when our bodies rub up against each other.
The Bible has a definition of love also
Paul writes in the 1st letter to the Corinthians
1st Corinthians 13:1 (ESV) If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. 4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
From verse 4 onwards, we learn that love has the following qualities
3) Not envious or boastful
4) Not arrogant or rude
5) Does not insist in its own way
6) Not irritable or resentful
7) Not rejoice in wrongdoing
8) Does rejoice in truth
9) Love bears all things
10) Love believes all things
11) Love hopes all things
12) Love endures all things
13) Love never ends (some translations say Love never fails)
Does that sound very much like the synopsis of “fifty shades of grey”? In all honesty no!
Defenses of the film
Most of the defenses of the film (or books) state that it is perfectly okay as the degradation has been administered with the consent of the “victim”.
Define “consent” because from my understanding these people have been subjected to emotional abuse to where they no longer have worth. If someone is in that frame of mind they will not exactly be consenting in a true fashion.
I really don’t see patience, kindness and I sure don’t see “not wanting their own way” I say this with all reverence of God’s word.
Will I see the film?
Probably not, there is very little in the film.for me. Am I telling you to not see the film? Actually not, I am not the Holy Spirit and would never want to be.
I am certainly not going to “get a wedgie” that the film is out, and i would urge others not to either, the reason i say that is that it does very little good and does nothing to further decent conversation as to why you believe that the content is bad and in all reality bears little fruit.
Obviously I don’t endorse the content of the film and I do hope that it is not as successful as the filmmakers hope that it will be, regrettably sex sells and already I am reading of DIY stores having extra supplies of things such as rope and training staff on “sensitive conversations”.
The actors themselves who were acting in the film even are said to have “no chemistry” and have gone on record as being uncomfortable with what they were paid to do in this film.
The situation needs prayer
Obviously it goes without saying that this message is not a Christian one so we need to pray for the folks who feel the need to go see this movie, pray for the singles, pray for the ones who are married and pray for their marriages.
I love you all and I pray that this page was a blessing to you and please share, comment or like below as the LORD leads you.